Ano nga ba ang Pag-ibig?


Nung nakaraang linggo, kinonpronta ako ng mga tanong patungkol sa paksang ito. “Ano ang Pag-ibig?” “Paano mo malalaman kung in love ka na?” “Handa ka na ba ma-in love?” Tatlong mahihirap na tanong. At ang mas mahirap, hindi mo masasagot yung dalawang huli kung hindi mo alam ang sagot sa una. Lahat naman tayo’y may iba’t ibang pananaw… More Ano nga ba ang Pag-ibig?

Why Does God Seem to Give You the Opposite?


“God. I can’t do this anymore. I’m helpless. Maybe, I’m crazy. How will I be able to handle this? It’s just barely impossible.” Life Issues. I’ve got my share. Who doesn’t have? I mean, all of us experience struggle[s] every once in a while. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that God..(1) gives me annoying… More Why Does God Seem to Give You the Opposite?

“…for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God.”


This is what the Lord says in Exodus 20:5 when He gave the first commandment: “You shall have no other gods before me.” I have cute and funny encounters concerning this verse and this characteristic of My Father God. [You can also skip the story and proceed to the latter part) Mid-March this year I went… More “…for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God.”

Not higher but too high!


http://brandnewmych.tumblr.com/

Image 

*This is from my Tumblr Account*

 

Akala ko dati okay na yung set ng standards ko at guardrails. Pero through reading I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, God convicted me to raise it, not higher but too high.

I just want to share this convictions not for people to follow them as rules for themselves but for them to be encouraged to define their standards and guardrails in line with God’s word. Convictions vary from person to person. It depends on God’s revelation of what He wants us to change and learn in our current season. These ones are mine:

  • Wear clothes that promote not just my purity but also my brothers’.

As a little girl I was deprived of wearing kikay clothes. I don’t know why it was only me. My mom let my sister wear girly clothes naman while growing up. Well, maybe it was because my hair was always short like Emma Watson’s and wearing girly clothes would make me look like a tomboy? I don’t know but for some reasons my mom only knew, and I never dared asking her about it, as a kid I used to wear shirts and pants. As I grew older, I started growing my hair and wearing girly clothes. When I entered college, I was able to save more money to buy clothes on my own. I remember one time I went home to the province my mom told me, my way of dressing is a bit liberated. She blamed Manila for it. Probinsiyana kasi ako so alam mo na. And conservative din kasi sila. For her, for my dad and my aunts, it was a bad thing. She said, I’m being inclined to the ways of the world and she no longer see me as the Mycha way back in high school that is reserved and seldom wears shorts and skirts and never wears tank tops. I also started modeling which I think had also liberated my way of clothing. Though I was not the sleeveless-shorts-slippers type, I was wearing shorts, short dresses, fitted blouses and the like just when I want to especially when attending parties. Sometimes I even wear see-through clothes, not that see-through though but still something that people will take more time to look at. And then God convicted me and used people to confront me about it. Slowly, I was able to change it and now, I just know that God is really concerned about my purity. So for a time, I was that careless and unmindful about the clothes I wear. Though those were not too revealing, I believe God wants me to change shorts to pants, short dresses to below-the-knee dresses, and wear blazers on top of sleeveless tops. The only thing He wants people to see-through me is not my top undergarment, but a heart that is willing to obey. And so yesterday, I went out and shopped for pants, loose shirts and sneakers. To dress just like the olden days. Today is my first time to wear them and it felt comfortable. I’m still adjusting though ’cause I’m not used to wearing them for years after those childhood days, but I believe it will be more comfy as days pass by.

  • No more sidehugs for guy friends. 

I got really used to this. As in like when I see a male friend, usually from church, I would call him by name and spread either my left or right arm and give him a side hug. All I knew then was it was just okay since these brothers, I believe, are grounded in Christ and they are secured but that’s not an excuse. God is calling me, us, to set our standards too high that even it’s just a plain sidehug, He wants us to be pure and holy to the smallest details. At first, my primary motivation to stop is the thought “Somewhere out there in the world, my future husband is living his life and if I were to see a girl hugging him, my gosh, I can’t afford to see that, even just the thought of it makes my heart ache. I’m a girl and I know how it would feel like.” It started from there, I want to do my brothers’ future wife a favor by preserving their purity. Well, we never know what men battle for every single day. I believe we can help them not just by wearing decent clothes but also by not being touchy and physically close to them. And I thought, if my intention and motive for sidehugging them is just to greet them, well, a fist bump will do.

At first it was hard to stand for this because even these friends got used to it. I asked God for boldness to speak and tell them about it and thank God, they understood where I’m coming from. They respect my new conviction and they help me stand firm on it. Now, whenever I see them in church or in school, they will just call me by name, high five maybe or fist bump. Sometimes I punch their arm :p 

  • Avoid going out when it’s just me and a guy.

“Go out”= not just “date” but even simple walks to the canteen at school, or walk home especially at night, or buying grocery with a friend. Minsan wala talagang choice e. Kasi like when I go home late, a brother walks me home. Walang kaso. Pero as much as possible I want to avoid it. Well, our heart is deceitful. We have to be guarded all the time. Minsan na akong nagkamali sa ganito. Nasa past blog entry ko yun, mga January or Feb yata na a close guy friend confessed his feelings. Yung friend ko na yun never ko naisip na mafafall sakin pero he did. And partly it was my fault. Anong nangyare, wala nasaktan ko lang naman siya. Kasi for him pala, my actions have meaning without me knowing it. Kaya naman this time I want to be more careful not to communicate false intentions. 

  • Avoid texting or chatting with/ talking to a guy when the topic isn’t about church or about school especially if it’s already late. 


This one, it’s a bit easy to manage and discern kung yung topic niyo ay healthy pa ba o hindi na. Let’s just go back to the olden days na ang mga babae ay hindi masyado nakikipagusap sa mga lalaki. Ang aga nga rin ng uwi nila, or hindi sila halos lumalabas. I find this one really helpful. Hindi lang nasasave ang time mo, it also promotes purity of thoughts. Minsan kasi I tend to think na baka may gusto sakin to kaya ako chinachat o tinetext. I once rebuked someone kasi he called 9:30pm asking me out. Nablog ko na rin to. And grabe I really thank God for the strength and boldness. 

  • Avoid staring at someone and trying to imagine he’s a potential future partner.

Sometimes we find some guys attractive because they’re Godly and good-looking; they have the things we look for at someone. I believe, it robs our purity pa rin kasi instead na we keep our friendship at a brother-and-sister level, andami ng thoughts na does not honor God. Nawawala yung sincerity ng friendship at nagkakaroon ng meaning lahat. I’m still striving na kahit crush wala na to protect my heart rin. 

  • Be bold to speak about your convictions.

Yes, it’s difficult but that’s the only way people will understand your motives and where you’re coming from. There’s this one guy who has been texting me for quite sometime. I told him about my convictions and standing firm on them would mean stopping our communication. That helped us in the situation a lot. Also, I used the same approach to guys who show their interest or intentions for courtship. I told them it’s not in my priority. Thank God, they respect and understand it.

  • Desire God more than anything else. He is your ultimate lover. Anchor your security and significance on Him.

Purity is just a by-product of a passionate heart that desires God. Lahat naman ng convictions at realizations pati yung drive to strive for purity, holiness and righteousness ay nagreresult lang sa sobrang pagmamahal natin kay God. Kaya instead on just focusing on being the right one for someone, desire God more. Minsan kasi, this holds true for me, mashado ako nagfofocus sa thought na “Uy this will make my future husband happy” kesa “This will honor God”. Live in the present. Live for God. Just be secured na merong someone in the future but for now, focus on God lang muna.

It helps a lot. Every time I am confronted with a situation, I can easily make decisions based on this guard rails. I encourage everyone to also have your own set of standards and guardrails. Pray to God about it, that it will be revealed to you. It starts from your heart, a heart that is willing to obey and change for God’s glory. Not just for yourself, but for those people who see you, for your brothers or sisters, for your future husband  or wife and most especially for God. 

Ephesians 6:13-17:

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

 

Temptations will come. Your convictions will always be tested. Be firm. Hold on to your conviction and ask God for strength. It’s a constant battle and an everyday decison. Always include it in your prayers. It’s not a one time big time event. When temptations and testings come, pray and ask God for strength. Declare verses from the bible. The best way to help yourself is to avoid compromising situations. You are bought at a price! You are pecious! Therefore, honor God with EVERYTHING :))

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.

-Ephesians 5:3


Let’s strive to be pure and holy before God.

 

for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.” – 1 Peter 1:16

More Not higher but too high!

A New Season


(c) Google Images Days have gone so fast and before it sank deeply into my consciousness, I was appointed as College of Arts and Sciences representative of LifeBox UP Manila. LIFEBox is a nationwide organization that aims to prepare students for LIFE (Leadership, Integrity, Faith and Excellence) based on God’s standards–the Bible. To me, being… More A New Season